For the Woman Who Feels Lost...

If you're standing at the edge of the unknown right now, know that you are not alone. Thousands of women before you, many more right now with you, also find themselves at this very same edge.

I've been there too, more than once.

At the moment motherhood became all too much, at the moment of our whole life collapsing....it's an edge I know deeply well.

And when you are standing there it does feel utterly lonely. Like, how could it ever be possible to put into words and share the internal experience you are having of staring into the abyss? How could anyone possibly understand? Even the small irks, the chronic weigh-downs, the general tiredness with life feels so personal.

But they do.

We all find ourselves at the edge for different reasons. We may not know each others journey to that point, but I promise you you'll find kindred spirits amongst those who have been, or currently face the very same edge.

And regardless of what happened before, we often come to that place with the same few questions:

Firstly, what the hell?!

Secondly, what do I do next?

Then....surely, this cant be it?

And always, how am I supposed to navigate this alone?

If this is you right now, here's what I want you to know.

Yes, it might feel like hell. It might be terrifying and vast and heavy and you might feel like you are drowning but YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH. It won't be easy, you may never want to do it again - but the person you will be on the other side of everything will make the journey worth it.

Stop trying to think there is a solution that will fix everything and it will all go away. Stop bullying yourself over the past and to all the things you might have done differently if only you 'had known'. The past is done. It is what it is now. You cannot change it. But you CAN decide how you move forwards from this moment. Direct your energy to the place where you have the power, and that is right now, in the present.

No, this is not it. Life is an utter cacophony of everything. There will always be good and bad, highs and lows and everything in between. The whole point is to learn how to hold space for it all. If you never travel through the dark, you'll never have the skills you need to hold such a big part of life. You will also never appreciate the sheer joys available to you if you do not experience both. When we stop trying to avoid the duality, when we stop trying to flatline our experience on this earth, we allow the utter beauty of the whole experience to come flooding in.

You never have to walk the path alone. We have been conditioned to think that sharing our truth when it is less than positive is simply 'airing your dirty laundry' and not appropriate.

To fuck it is.

You NEED to share. With someone, somewhere, somehow. Even if your first step is simply acknowledging where you are at by writing it down into a journal. It's a way to offload. Perhaps you simply speak out loud to yourself in the mirror. Your voice carries so much power. Perhaps you find a support group online, have one close friend or family member you can be open with, perhaps a therapist would be a total gift. Your 'stuckness', your 'problem', your edge doesn't have to be disasterous, newsworthy or utterly shocking. It just has to matter to you. It just has to feel like a stickyness that holds you in limbo. Perhaps a dead-end you're tired of running into. Maybe just a uninspiring life that is sucking your soul dry and you're done with feeling empty.

If you're not feeling like yourself, if you're wandering without a purpose or a passion - explore the things keeping you stuck. Share that you are stuck and I guarantee a whirlwind of women will echo your experience.

And if you're ready to stop floundering and actually take a step to start a new path forward.....sit with yourself for a few minutes, and ask yourself this question - answering honestly. You'd only be lying to yourself if you don't.

"Where have you abandoned yourself…..and are you ready to return?"

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